“The idea of being our best self is often in the back of our minds in this busy society we live in, but is there, nevertheless. It is that voice deep inside that nag at us quietly, steering us in our true direction. It is our spiritual/higher-self/inner wisdom/God/buddha voice (whatever we name it) – guiding us in the direction to bring clarification of who we are. It is otherwise known as ‘Self-Actualisation’.”Rogers, C (1967)
Becoming your best self … that what most of us aim for. When we meditate and be still with ourselves, we find a deeper meaning, this is the place where we discover what we really want, who we really are and where we are heading. Through self-exploration, inquiry and self-discovery we become our unique selves.
What prevents us? The prevention to ‘self-actualisation’ often stems in our childhood, our belief system and our social world. We care deeply what others think of us. From this we develop habits that at times do not fit with our deepest inner desires leaving us in conflict with ourselves. These habits are often due to a sense of responsibility, acts of kindness and a sense of community. Often coming from the best intentions and an altruistic mindset for others. We feel guilty when we want to pursue our deepest purpose.
These habits become so ingrained that we often think this is what we want, but when we inquire into this through Mindfulness Meditation, we discover our true purpose. Is there a balance between our true purpose and the needs of others? We can begin to recognise this through Mindfulness meditation …. here we begin to notice our thought processes, behaviour patterns, our deeper feelings and our interactions with others.
Recognise that we all have a higher self-perspective, the ability to find inner peace, the inner knowledge, the inner drive, a unique purpose and good intentions. So, becoming familiar with these places or states of mind is the beginning of a transformative journey.
Rogers, C. (1967). On becoming a person: a therapist’s view of psychotherapy. London: Constable.